Although she posts for creative fulfillment, she finds pressure in the silent competition to be the most desired person, as measured by likes, follows, and shares. She follows friends and family to keep up with the lives they post, and others, she follows for the life they're selling as inspiration for her own. She ponders the mold that social media is conforming people to.

To her, it feels like the first time in humanity when the idea of someone is more important than their true colors. If a person can maintain a proper and desirable online image, admiration and opportunities will follow.


“Social media allows us to control people's idea of who we are with the creative freedom to choose what we put on our page,” she told her therapist. 

She pulls herself off of the very broken-in leather couch, and slowly walks from wall to wall,  “We curate our exposure. We can completely recreate ourselves on social media for strangers we may never cross paths with in real life. And, with that, comes little accountability to be that person off-screen,” she anxiously continues, ending with a light sigh. 

Her therapist often stays quiet in these moments. She’s learned that once the thoughts are flowing and the words are following, listening is her best practice.

“Everything that we put on our social media account is a reflection of who we want the world to see us as.” She relatably states that maybe for her, her social media page is a foreshadow to who she wants to be and is working towards becoming. 

Not giving her therapist the opportunity to respond, she explains, “We want people to live in the same reality that we live in. We want people to see us in whatever light we want to be seen in. And today, we have the opportunity to create exactly that.”

Outloud, she questions what this could be doing to society's well-being.

Her therapist explains, “Some may argue that they're driven by this. Others might be more avoidant. But, no matter the side, we all have to learn who we are with it. It’s become the norm to be exposed to people, lifestyles, and corners of the world that we’ll rarely come in contact with. Not everyone will digest it the same. It's just important that they digest it in a way that’s healthiest for them.”

 
 
 
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